Isn't the wedding reflective of the bride and groom?

The wedding is sometimes considered to be a "gift" for everyone except the bride and groom. That is actually the traditional view of a wedding. Since for many couples, they would not have a wedding at all and simply get a certificate and go on living their lives without dishing out $50K for a party. The wedding is often a reflection of the couple's family and friends, and their attempts to make it a comfortable environment for their guests. In many people's opinion, to design a wedding that is completely opposite of what you know your guests would want is very disrespectful.